It’s been a while since I’ve had a good day. Sunday was okay, but then Monday was hard. I had to ask the question—
How can one day be so much harder than the day prior? Shouldn’t grief get incrementally easier?
I had either a mild cold or intense backlash from not taking my allergy medicine which really fatigued me. Combine that with my father’s death, no real Christmas to speak of and a formerly good friend reappearing Sunday night to gaslight me, again, hopefully for the last time.
I have been short-tempered, moody and a little meaner than usual. We all understand the reasons why, right? In addition to this very emotional stuff, I am still dealing with what is essentially premature aging in my spine and a new extended work day and a daily schedule that involves flipping my previous life upside down. I used to go to be at 2 a.m. and now my alarm wakes me at 5 a.m. That is, when cats don’t request a cuddle at 4:30 a.m.
The former friend in question here wished me a happy and safe holiday after ignoring me for the last three weeks— which unbeknownst to me was on purpose because I wouldn’t provide this person informative on a quasi-sorta date I went on. This person felt slighted and like they were not valued as a friend because I did not share something I felt was personal and none of their business (I told none of my friends) AND something that didn’t go anywhere worth reporting.
Apparently, this friend— who has a history of gaslighting— stopped looking at my social media, my blog, etc. Not once did this friend say anything to me.
This friend said nothing when my dad passed.
So, being at the end of my rope in every category, I lashed out.
I said mean things. The same mean things I have said to this person before and this person has responded not by addressing those issues but with points on how nasty I can be.
I’m wondering if I need to block this person. I don’t want to, because once upon a time this person was a good friend. But circumstances outside my control have changed my relationship with this person.
And I don’t have the emotional energy to placate people any more.
And in those same terms— I am so grateful for those friends who keep checking on me. You know, the ones that actually pay attention to what is happening in my life.
But anyway… my good day…
I am realizing more and more that stress makes my aches and pains flare. And I wonder if that contributes to the burning sensation in my quads and my instability.
At work, it quickly became apparent that I was hitting my metrics! I texted the teenager and asked if she wanted to have breakfast on my 15 minute break. She made a Dunkin run and brought the dog to see me.
I think I maintained 95% in QC all day.
Lunch was delicious — leftover chicken with vodka sauce and fresh broccoli, kale, and spinach.
And I got to style card, which I also got to do yesterday. It feels good to do something different and work in positions not everyone in the warehouse knows.
It just felt like a normal day, and I felt like me, and not a foggy me.