Last night, some of the team at ASPIRE to Autonomy Inc — myself, my amazing intern Sarah, and one of our founders, Amber— decided to support The YWCA of Bethlehem and improve our communication skills by attending the YW’s Yes! Empowerment Series sponsored by Provident Bank Foundation.
I had a great time and it sounded like my colleagues were having fun at this virtual workshop on building powerful communication skills.
The workshop was facilitated by Danielle Adams of QueenSuite Coaching. I enjoyed her style and approach as she deftly encouraged us to write our intentions, guided us through an exercise in drawing what we hear, and discussed listening, speaking and leading styles and how they intersect.
It reminded me of a story I like to tell— even though my husband and I know each other down to the minutest detail, we struggle to communicate. Our brains are much too different. So I can’t do projects with him.
Let’s say we were designing a logo. I could write specific instructions of what I wanted and when he finished it would not even resemble what I had in my head.
I can send the same exact directions to my friend Gayle, yes the same Gayle of walking adventures, and she will transform it into my vision.
It happened again today as we are working together on ASPIRE’s annual report. I had some quirky ideas so I was nervous sending them to design. And then Darnell asked if Gayle could help.
I was ecstatic when he asked because I needed her. I knew she would be faster and give clean design on a short time frame.
And she sent me her first days’ progress— I’m giddy.
It’s been a long time since I had the freedom to implement my ideas.
And so far, I think Darnell is pleased too.
Anyway— point is— some people struggle to work together effectively and it’s not because one party is “wrong” or “inept” or “stubborn” or “hostile,” sometimes people have different styles and their brains don’t mesh.
What matters is how we respond to those difficulties.